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One: Identify what person, situation or event is causing you the most stress right now. |
Example: Sarah is letting one of the mothers, Amy, in her children’s playgroup intimidate her. |
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Two: Identify what you would like to see happen. For example, a conversation needs to take place. |
Example: Sarah wants to be able to stand up to this particular Mother in a confident way and not feel like she's "giving in" to something she doesn't want to do at that particular time. |
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Three: Identify someone you respect and trust who you can use as a coach to help you reach your goal. |
Example: Sarah asks one of the other mothers, Emily, a person she admires because of her poise, confidence, and the expert way she is able to handle Amy. |
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Four: Work with your coach to develop the appropriate conversation that needs to take place. What do you need to STOP DOING? What do you need to START DOING? Practice the conversation with your coach until you feel comfortable. |
Example: Sarah found out she needed to STOP doubting herself and START trusting her gut and START appearing AS IF she were already confident. |
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Five: Have the conversation. |
Example: Sarah had an opportunity because she was approached by Amy to work at a bake sale at a certain time, Sarah replied, “I want to help you, however, that time does not work with my schedule. I can do 3-4 or 4-5. Which one would you like me to cover?” |
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Six: Report back to your coach how it went. Get his/her feedback and tweak accordingly. |
Example: Sarah told Emily it worked because Amy said she could work the 4-5 timeframe. Sarah also told Emily she felt confident even though she was a bit nervous at first.. Emily discussed with her some techniques to lower her stress so the next time she really feels super confident and can handle those difficult conversations at any time. |
